Monday, June 25, 2007

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Saturday, June 9, 2007

The Chase

There’s nothing worse then being approached by a guy who seems nice for the moment, but when you try to break free, and go back to your friends becomes a leech. I will never understand why certain men just can’t take the hint. Why do some men latch onto women when it’s quite obvious that woman isn’t into him? It was abundantly clear while with my friend at Ono she wanted no part of this guy; yet he still was chasing her like a puppy and wasting his duckets on her! Men even after several drinks please realize for some women no matter how intoxicated they get they’re still not going to be “into you.” Men don’t you understand that many times the only reason why certain women even entertain having you cling is for the free drinks they know your springing for! To many women it’s pretty clear when a guy isn’t “into her.” However, why do most men never seem to feel the negative vibes a woman gives off, yet will still try? Is it because they like the challenge and threive off the thrill of the chase: Even when what they’re really looking like is a complete loser and desperate?

Tuesday, June 5, 2007

Little Things Say a LOT!

Just like most women are planners, and men know this, men must try to really LISTEN. Nothing drives women more nuts then when they ask or tell you about plans and even remind you and you will have completely forgotten. If many men can remember to go to a friend’s bachelor party and have plans with the boys, then why can’t they remember a Saturday night date, or worse, a birthday, or anniversary?
Fact: Women get SO aggravated when dating guys and they put forth no effort to make plans or romance.

I laugh when couples say, “Oh, the honeymoon is over,” or “after marriage there’s no sex.” Men, you need to understand that if you want sex and spice, it goes hand and hand with romance and remembering and doing little things. Many men and women forget how turned on one gets from doing the little things, rather only doing something because it’s a Hallmark day.

Men, my Maven advice to keeping your woman happy: never forget the romance, whether in the initial stages of dating, married, or after kids. And, women, men have needs and wants just like you. It may not be getting the new hottest shoes, or latest bag Cameron Diaz is wearing, but often a home-cooked meal and a bottle of wine is just what the Dr. prescribed! My Maven advice to all you men and women out there is to keep the fire lit, and always remember the romance and champagne! Just like my step-dad has always said, “Cards and flowers are bought items and usually only given on required days. It’s the actions and the small things one does that keeps romance alive.” Romance means having to think, and not just paying for something that usually has very little meaning or thought put in! Still though, why do so many men and even some women have trouble being romantic when not expected to be?

Sunday, June 3, 2007

Sometimes Love Just Isn't Enough.....

For decades (and perhaps centuries), most women are known to have been overly sensitive and analytical, and will usually create unnecessary drama when dating or in a relationship. It’s a fact that many men know this! Yet still so many of my friends will call me to discuss their arguments, disagreements, and squabbles they’ve encountered with their mates. I’ll listen and often quickly see the root. However, many women LOVE going on, ranting and raving, and beating the dead horse. Where on the other-hand most men will usually sit there and listen while she’ll bitch, complain, whine and moan. Most men usually will end up blowing off the “drama,” slam the phone, or walk out, and not really give a shit and give her some well needed space and time to think about what’s really the issue that doesn’t need to be screamed about like lunatic but discussed like a human being.

While reading an article in Oprah June’s edition, there was a very clear statement made, and it 100% makes sense. “Just because the chemistry and sex is great, doesn’t mean 2 people together work as a couple.” I discovered this out the long and hard way. No matter how much 2 people may care for one another and even love each other, if they don’t think similarly and agree on important issues and things, I will GUARANTEE that when in a relationship and when children come into the picture, many issues will arise and pose significant problems. Most men and women need to see that just like kissing needs to be “in sync,” most everything else needs to be, too. If one person thinks one way, which isn’t necessarily bad, and usually the other never agrees, I promise you this will cause more fights and tension than fun, and easy times. It happened to me; I lived through it. No matter what I said or how I explained it, Sebastian never wanted to see it my way until, it became too late, and he started to see I was too fed up to live the rest of my life will constant arguing and disagreeing. As the Maven I finally realized that being in a relationship and not thinking alike or being on the same page, most often won't make for an easy and happy relationship.