First Base....Strike, or Run?

Since society has put such an emphasis on being healthy, working out, and looking good, that if you are an attractive man or woman, oftentimes you’ll seek out the same in a mate. While talking with Brea about men, we both agreed we can look past guys carrying a few extra pounds in the gut! What many singles have a hard time understanding is that at first when you meet someone, they may look great. But when comfortable in a relationship, and especially after pregnancy, those good looks often fade. Many need to grasp that looks, bodies, and physical features (for the most part) WILL change, and sadly some don’t have the pleasure of aging gracefully. Couples tend to agree that in the beginning of relationships, physical attraction is deeper and unfortunately sometimes fades over time. When speaking with Brea, she was telling me about Adam who was a few years younger, a little chubby but cute, and had a great personality.

“So, what’s the problem with him? Chubby? Get him on the stair-master and take the bread n’ butter away when you dine with him! We all know weight on many can fluctuate. Not everyone can be as anorexic as you, you know!”
“Ha, ha, yes, I know! His chubbiness doesn’t bother me, and physically I’m attracted to him. The problem was, after the date when he went to kiss me.”
“Huh? What went wrong? You didn’t get a kiss?
“No. I did land a kiss, and it was awful--WORSE than in the sixth grade!”
“I laughed. Oy, are you serious? There’s nothing more disconcerting than a guy who can’t kiss.”
“I was so disappointed, and as wet and turned on as I was, I quickly became like a dried-up well!”
“Do you think he was nervous and didn’t put forth his best kissing effort?”
“ARE YOU KIDDING ME, NO...……a kiss means chemistry, and it’s a make or break!”
“I agree Brea, a kiss does mean chemistry. However, trust me that it’s also like having sex with a new guy for the first time; it may suck. So, because it sucked, that’s it? You’re not going to try it again; he’s over and done?

Just because a first kiss isn’t what you had expected, or the sex wasn’t good, does this mean we shouldn’t give someone another chance and try again? After all, it’s similar to saying that a man or woman who wasn’t planning on hooking up and therefore didn’t shave down below can’t be a hottie with a little Nair! Does this mean just because they were a monkey down under you won’t hook up with them again? Why not try and groom them?