NO CALL BACK

You go out with, what appears to you, a great date and guy. The date lasts for longer than coffee or your typical drink and the two of you seem to be hitting it off and end up having dinner and hitting “10Jun.” The guy expresses to you, "I had a great time. I'll call you this week and we'll get together.” Perhaps he'll call then again AND MAYBE HE WON'T. The Call Back can be played out in several ways:
Scenario A: He calls, you make plans and he cancels and never reschedules. This is the tentative guy who is indecisive about whether he likes you, or not. As your mind starts to wonder about why he canceled, the truth could be because he’s already involved with someone else and doesn't want to complicate this by going out with you a second time. But, enough with the excuses we’ve all had plenty of those...if he really liked you and was “into you”, there would be that second date and you would hear back and see him again.

Scenario B: There is No Call Back, period. Apparently your feelings about your date were different then his. Let’s pretend you both go for ice cream, you like sugar free and plain and all he wants was the sugar, carbs, toppings and everything he could get his mouth and hands into! Move on and don't second guess. Unless however it benefits you or if a good hook up is needed or some fun, no strings intended, crazy wild night! But really this guy obviously is a waste of time and energy and digits should be erased from your PDA, CELLS, or OUTLOOK!

Now girls, if Scenario A or B is recurrently happening to you, make a list of why you thought your date was good; a he said, she said, pro and con; and compare any recurring patterns of behavior that emerge that will give you hindsight as to why no "second chances.”

And, Scenario C: They call weeks later, or shoot a text message at 3 a.m. the “booty text” to say "what up". This is usually the immature, had too many drinks party asshole who just wants to get laid! Maybe he calls the next morning when he sobers up to apologize so you don’t think he’s a complete ass and asks to make another plan, which he inevitably will never keep. Forget this piece of trash; he’s just not worth thinking about or wasting your valuable time and red bull energy!

Most women, at one point or another, have gone out with a guy that they’ve met on an online site, had a fun time with, and never hear back from the date again. This is like a hot trendy restaurant, you try it out, small portions, over priced and WAY overrated. Now you’ve hit it, time to “self examine!” Maybe you didn't hook up with the guy, maybe you did. Many guys out there who are single and dating are simply looking to score; well then, they should just go to “scores.” Certain men don't want or feel they have to make the effort to pursue a woman for a multitude of reasons which I’ll get into at another time. But, analyze your behavior patterns from these types of dates. What was it about you that turned the guy off rather than drew him back for more? What signals did you give, consciously or subliminally? And it may not have been you at all he just could be that complete selfish, conceited, typical player of a man which you definitely do NOT want to end up with.

If a man truly enjoys a woman and wants to make the time and effort in getting to “know her” then he will give her a second chance. Women have to be like “onions;” mysterious and let the guys peel away the layers. Don't initially spill over at the mouth and tell all even though we know most women can’t “bite it.” Men who surf the dating sites are usually pretty busy and, according to their profiles, (which is another whole topic for discussion another time) are just trying to meet that "special someone.” However, as we all are aware, there are still those horny assholes just looking to feed their horniness! I prefer feeding my horniness with a nice slice at 3am and waiting for the Toad instead of the average “frog.” But, woman should not treat every "good time" date as Mr. Right and start planning the “wedding”. Typically a man can sense this anxiety, even when nothing is said. So, ladies my suggestion to you is, instead of thinking was it me? And, not truly believing that it was, start to think maybe it was “you.” If you liked the guy, perhaps something you said or did turned him off. Make that Behavior List and be honest and true with yourself. Sometimes the answers lie within and are found by being introspective. Think about how you can modify some of your behavior and mannerisms to entice the next guy. Be honest, real, and smart about you and your dating success should follow.