Everyone has hormones...girls have lots of them. And, anyone with said hormones knows that hooking up with a guy, whether it’s a one-night-thing (you may meet him out and end up going home together), or a friend-with-benefits (that may or may not carry the possibility of leading to something more), is USUALLY fun and “hormone satisfying.” BUT sadly, there are those times when the “hook up” can lead to women becoming disappointed and annoyed (often within a 6 hour time frame from doing the deed).
For instance take one recent Saturday night out in the city. Amy and I got all dolled up in our sexy tops, Hudson jeans, and Manolos, which will probably need a trip to the shoe man on Lexington for “clean up.” The taxi dropped us off at 15th and 9th and we were ready to go party and dance, get giddy, flirt, and have some innocent old fashioned fun. Long story short, our “old fashioned” girl duo ended up with extra number and gender to our “duo”, and losing its "innocence" by the end of the night.
At the party my eagle eyes spotted a hot, sexy man at the end of the bar. I thought, WOW I’d sure like to meet him somehow...and so I did. Yes, girls, you SHOULD just approach him, just do it; what’s the worst thing that could happen you get rejected and instead of grabbing him you grab another shot! But luckily, you and he hit it off, and he even had a friend for your friend! How convenient!
Our newly formed foursome ended in hopping around from 10 Jun to Marquee and down 27th Street, having an evening full of surprises! Then fancy to my fortune, I ended up home with the guy. Boy, this boy had hormones too...hormones? Meet mine.
Here's the thing see, most girls/people/everyone won't say after all is said and done, it's 50/50 hooking up which means you end up having sex with the guy. WHAT?! SEX?! on the first not-even-date but meeting? I blame the hormones. As long as discretion and protection attend the dirty drunk parties then let’s just admit it's the truth. Now from a guy’s point of view, how do you men classify girls that have “drunken” sex with you? Passionate? Whores? A fun chick? We girls would like to have some insight please!
Now we all know the guy isn't thinking about anything but, we women NEVER stop thinking or analyzing, no matter how much we have poured on our brains: Is the guy just looking for a lay? Should I roll with it, as we roll this inhibition of defeating the joint? He sure is cute and sexy...after we hook up, will he ever call me again? Will I hook up with him again? How many days will pass before I’ll hear from him again if in fact I ever do ever speak to him again? AND so on. Men why is it you hook up with girls and then don’t reach back out? Please any insight would be much appreciated! Guys its time to share your thoughts and experiences!
FACT: Guys think with their dicks and not what’s sitting on their heads. They love to play, they love the caressing, and the kissing, and the feeling of warmth that a woman gives them, and then the “cumming.” Women also love the feeling of a man cradling them, spooning them throughout the night, falling asleep and waking up at 4am to get some more “action.” It's all wonderful excitement when it’s going on, but often these feelings are temporary and fleeting and not “reality.” Sometimes, a hook up or fun nights are JUST that-ONE night. We women rationalize our impulsive actions by thinking this person might be “The One”. We think WOW; he just might be the prince I’ve been searching for. Well GIRLS, dreaming doesn't make it true, HE ISN’T.
You leave his apartment in the AM do the “walk of shame” out, past the doorman and into the streets of New York to hale a taxi. You phone doesn’t ring, no text is heard and he ends up never contacting you again which, leaves you in despair. You decide you can’t control yourself anymore, and you flip your cell open so you can shoot him an innocent “text or email.” HOWEVER, NEVER “directly” call him. Shooting him a “text/email” is harmless. We hear from men, time and time again how they think and perceive us at Nuts, Crazy and Stalkers, so my Maven advice would be to not call and wait a few weeks for him to contact you. If then after a few weeks go by and you are still thinking about him then maybe you can “text or email” him and see the response you get. If he is polite and leaves the door “open” he should respond, if he is a dick, no response will be and you long term don’t want to end up with someone like that anyhow!
FACT II: BUT, We all know and if a guy truly likes a girl or was ready for a “relationship” he will contact her sooner rather then “later.”
However what did that night mean? What really happened? Was it the wine/vodka/shots that just over powered our minds and let it get the best of both of us? Will we both wake up grabbing the Fiji and Advil to cure the massive hangover and try to relieve that feeling of “what did I do?” Why didn’t I just go home, make a quick pit stop by Pizza 33, put on sweats, play with Pasha and fall asleep? Well I’m sure more of us have been in this type of situation before and will again until we find our prince that won’t let us leave the next morning without asking us out again or even better we end up spending the day together starting with a brush of the teeth, shower, and change of clothes. Then the prince picks you up and you go to brunch at Sarabeth’s! That's a day fit for a prince (and princess) if you ask me!
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When those hormones rage, perhaps you should try a vibrator before going out. I love the "eroscillator" which is endorsed by Dr. Ruth. This may serve two purposes, one satisfying the sexual need, and the other eliminating the "walk of shame" that you wrote about in your blog.
Yes, Vibrators are good "substitutions" for the lack of a man. But, a vibrators sole purpose should NOT be used as a replacement for a guy. Actually they should work as a way to further figure yourself out and therefore enhance future sex.....
However, some "hook up's" aren't planned as the one spoken about in my blog. Therefore, in this circumstance a vibrator wouldn't have done any good!
ok, this is a guy here - yes, guy's think with their dicks and it's hard in many way to control that. I think women need to also be more honest with themselves. What is wrong with a walk of shame? As a guy, I have no problem walking out the next day with no shame. In fact, I will do so with a smile hopefully. Girl's have more difficulty having unattached sex without thinking about what the future might hold for her and this random dude she is about to sleep with. Just go with the flow. See what happens. Be safe. And be honest, you are just as horny as the guys are. You just need to work on finding a guy that can satisfy those needs better and then you wont feel as bad if he never calls again because that one night was so great. (Well you probably would want him to call just for another night of wild hot passionate sexy time but thats not the point here)
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