MORE THAN MEETS THE EYE!

So much material in our world today tries to analyze and conclude why there are so many men and women single, going out on not enough good dates and way too many bad ones. Magazines, T.V. shows, and dating specialists all try to rationalize why many people today are still single. Why do so many people have problems finding that special one? Are they focusing too much on looks, which over time may or may not fade? Is it the endless excuse of being scared to commit, is she or he too fat or too thin, is height a problem, or just personality, or are men and women so set in their singles-way-of-life that deep down it doesn’t bother them? But, if that were the case, why do they sign up on a singles site, or even date? Is it just to satisfy the ragging hormones and get some action? Or, is the real problem--which isn’t easily admitted--YOU?

It’s very easy to think you may be the “perfect catch” on paper. However, hopefully you’ll find out that what may look so great on a résumé doesn’t always pan out in a face-to-face “interview.” Just because you may have a 6 pack, full head of think hair, fancy car, great career, and (if you’re lucky) hung like an elephant, DOES NOT mean that every woman wants to take your ride. What if you’re viewed as obnoxious; all you do is sit there talking about money or how many models you’ve been out with, how great you are in the sack, and how you’ve traveled to every country and get first dibs for going to every celebrity party or new opening. Is this going to keep a girl that you may really like into you? Why aren’t you still with the models? Why aren’t you hitched if you’re such the “catch” and SO great? Do you really believe that all these things are going to help land you the girl of your dreams and make her stay with you? Well, maybe if it’s the quiet, little bo peep innocent girl who just looks good on your arm, okay, but after a while, I can promise you all that shit wears thin. Sooner or later she’ll get annoyed with all the show and talk, and a point will come, (as perfect as you may think you are), where you’ll wake up to find, years later, you’re still alone and have nothing tangible other than you’re Porsche or Bentley car key--if you’re lucky enough to even be able to hold onto that!

But just like women get annoyed, what about a girl who thinks she’s the “perfect catch?” Even though she may be brilliant, IVY league educated, has a great career, comes from a nice home, what will happen when you get annoyed when she takes forever to get ready, is always snapping her gum, always on her cell, always late even when you tell her four times she MUST be on time, and it’s clear that she keeps putting herself before you even though you’re SO great and giving, and what once seemed like quite the “catch” from that instant attraction ends up being a nightmare? If the only real reason you’re with her in the first place is for her long legs, size 2 waist, and perfect C cup, if it ends up being long-term, you may soon find that she isn’t what you thought you’d signed up for.

Just because so many singles exist and are out there dating, posting on single sites and trying to find that perfect Mr. or Miss Right unfortunately isn’t that easy. If you’re fortunate to be able to “buy” your date or be seen on one of these speed-dating concepts as being loaded and looking only for an arm “piece” (that after awhile hurts your arm and dents your accounts more than you could have imagined), for the time being maybe you and she will be content. BUT, just because some guy is “loaded” or some girl is “hot,” all that can fade, and months later when you are either all shopped out or tired of all the brainless conversation, and your dick hurts from too much sex (because that’s the only thing keeping you two together), you wake up and think HOLY SHIT, I blew 100,000 in four months on someone, and where am I now…alone and $100K poorer?

Has our society put such an emphasis on looks, money, and materialistic and superficial things that it’s forgotten about what’s really important? Has it gotten more and more hung up on all the superficial bullshit instead of trying to address and fix the REAL problem and issue? Is the problem that most of the singles out there today have totally forgotten what it means to have strong morals and keep good values? Is that what the real issue is? And is the reason why most singles are thought of as having too many excuses as to why they can’t find someone really because we’re afraid to admit that perhaps we may not be looking far enough ahead, and thinking: will this person be a good mom or dad? Will they be understanding and emotionally supportive? Will they take care of me if sick? Are we intellectually, and physically compatible? Just because vows only get said when getting married, if you are fortunate enough to find someone and hit that point with, this doesn’t mean these words should be meaningless when dating and trying to find that special one! Men and women better start trying to understand that what may seem great for the moment doesn’t always turn out to be great down the road. As a Maven I’ve seen many friends rush into things for wrong reasons and get lost in the moment. One must always try to stay those two steps ahead, because by being ahead, very rarely do you ever fall behind or have to catch up or start over!