Dropped Like a Fly....WHY?

My phone rings last night. It was my close married friends, Elena and Alan, all fired up and on a rampage.
“I cannot believe who we ran into at Capital Grille,” I hear Alan scream in the background.
“Put Alan on the phone. What is going on; why are you all fired up?”
“Well, did you ever run into an old friend from childhood whose wedding you were in, were best friends with for years, but as soon as he, or she became ‘hitched,’ you were flushed away quicker than shit? And, unexpectedly, 10 years later you run into them?” I chuckled…
“Yes!” It’s unfortunate I explained to Alan. But worse is when there’s no “legitimate” reason why you and your friend stopped speaking.

Having experienced similar situations where friends became obsolete, I related to Alan. It’s a sad commentary when some of your SO-called friends meets a guy, or girl, and become WHIPPED way more than “Land o Lakes!” Your friendship quickly comes to a halt, and you’re instantly dropped out of their life. It’s as if they were never friends with you or even knew you. Complete eviction…Why?

Friends shouldn’t go dropping friends; it’s NOT the right thing to do. After all, you were friends way before this other walked into your life, and who’s to say that this new interest or infatuation will last? There’s no reason why someone has to choose: an s.o. over “friends.” After all, most of us know that good friends will be there through thick and thin. But often when we’ve removed ourselves from friendships and act like a complete assholes, we’ll sometimes realize that this new fling isn’t for us, and the picture as to why your friends didn’t like this new man is finally clear. This isn’t to say we should always listen to our friends, but we also shouldn’t go ditching them for the hottie down the block. Often there comes a time when you’ll try going back to your friend, explaining how stupid you were, and plea for their forgiveness. Will they accept your remorse and take you back as their friend?

If a friendship is important, then it shouldn’t be treated like a roller coaster. We shouldn’t only expect to ride when single and bored, with no plans. And just because something better sometimes comes along, and often we may THINK it’s the best thing to hit since losing our virginity and having our cherry popped, we shouldn’t go ditching our friends. Why do so many friends pull this shit? And, why do some significant others make it so hard to remain friends with certain people?