EYE CANDY

When speaking with a male friend of mine, Maverick about the type of girl he wants, likes, and is attracted to, he told me, “I can say anyone is nice, smart, and hardworking, would make a great mother, and friend. BUT, I cannot say that even if a girl has all these amazing qualities that I would want to jump all over her, wine, dine and 69 with her, or spend the rest of my life with her. Maven, I need the physical attraction, and if it’s not there, I don’t care how nice she is or if she’s the daughter of Bill Gates; I’m NOT interested.” WOW, I thought to myself; quite the bold statement.

Has society put such an emphasis on looks that it’s overpowering the way we go about choosing our mates? Are most single men so caught up in physical beauty that other characteristics in a woman are overlooked? And are men just picking a woman for the knockers she has? Will many women just settle for a guy who isn’t so good looking because what she’s really looking for is, to get married, have babies, and is mostly concerned with finding a good provider? But, why does it appear that looks are so important to so many men, but less important to many women (especially once they’ve started freaking about their biological clocks tick-talking away)? Are most men more superficial than women, or are women just as superficial, but in other ways?

Having experienced meeting and dating all types of men, where many were met online and totally lied about their physical appearance, I will say that physical attraction is critical from the get go, and throughout the whole relationship. As a modern-day woman, it’s apparent that MEN need SEX, but most WOMEN do too! However, men thrive off of it, salivate and talk constantly about it, and will tend to be that DOG in heat that humps at any given opportunity. And most men will put an emphasis on sex way more then most women. Unfortunately it’s apparent and quite sad that many women live, and lead their lives by their biological clock. Even though they may have envisioned landing that chic, stylish, full head of hair, tall and dark, sexy hung stallion, there comes a point where beauty or a large pecker isn’t as important to them. Does this mean women should settle if there is less physical attraction and the attraction of carrying a bun in the oven is factoring into their decisions? Or, if you do end up with the guy who only had ½ of what you really wanted but gave you a flawless ring and put your fertility qualms at ease, in the end will he make you truly happy and content? Or, will there always be that passion and heat missing, leaving you feeling lonely, sexually deprived, and unfulfilled inside?

Have men become the smarter of the single sexes? Do most men think their “equipment” allows them to be perpetual baby-makers? Since most aren’t looking for a woman to support them, do they have the advantage to remain single and be players? Are most women searching for their Freudian father-figure where they have the picturesque image of the nice house with the white picket fence? Is contentment always the way to go? To me, being content means one has settled, and this isn’t always the best direction to take.

As we back through time, we’ll tend to see and find the same things....wars had been started over beautiful women...look at the Helen of the Trojan War....kingdoms were broken up over attractive women.... Mark Anthony and Cleopatra...religion was discarded because of lust and attraction… Sampson and Delilah… Henry the VIII (who in the 14th century established his own church in England so he could be granted a divorce...(which of course still is affecting us today, as there is still religious strife in countries such as Ireland). Have we all forgotten what deep love and passion is all about? Is everything now just purely focused on doing the “deed” only to fulfill our raging sex drives? Have the values of yester-year been compleately warped, and most men are just focusing too much on the beauty that was obsessed way before Shakespeare’s Romeo and Juliet? Which way is the right way to go? Is there a right way?

Well, Miss Maven would like to clue all of you in. Whether your attraction is found because of looks, money, materialistic possessions, or intellect, the two most important and obvious pieces of a person are looks and personality. They both go hand and hand, and are equally necessarily to make for a dynamic relationship. Women should try holding out for that special one, and not settling just because their biological alarm clocks are about to go off, or because they feel pressure from everyone surrounding them. And guys, let your eyes wonder, and if you happen to be fortunate enough to meet a unique person with character, who’s sexy and fun, and great in bed, DON’T FUCK IT UP and DO NOT let her slip away!